Firstly apologies for the promisingly intriguing and ultimately misleading post title. Yes, I’m afraid its just another ponder on the good old room shuffle/when to turf the baby out debate (OMG extreme attachment parents everywhere may well be getting their Mobeys in a big knot at that description but fear not – I’m only kidding – I’m not averse to months and months more sleepy cuddles before I send him into the Sibling’s Den).
So when JJ was about 6 months old he started sleeping through the night. The only problem was that he coughed a lot in his sleep and for this reason he was sleeping in his own room from about that age onwards. We have a three bedroom house and, due to the hubster working lots of late shifts, we use two of the rooms between us, with JJ in the third. The plan has always been to move the boys in together when the time comes (despite the fact that the room in question is not particularly massive – I’m sure it can squeeze in a couple of beds and some storage solutions some way, somehow!).
I also always intended to move EJ out of my room by the time I started back at work or soon thereafter (aged about 8 or 9 months). However here we are – 7 months later and he’s still in with me, still waking some time between 4 and 6am for a bottle, stirring quite a bit and occasionally needing a quick dummy replacement at short notice.
It was a lot simpler with one child – no question of whether or not he would disturb a sibling and break the pattern of acceptable sleep behaviour that we’ve fallen into. With EJ, I have to consider that this is a likely scenario at 15 months. Essentially he is still a baby and these night wakings are a completely different kettle of fish to anything JJ might wake for. It would probably be a different matter if we had an extra bedroom – I would risk a bumpy transition to night time independence if there wasn’t another child in the mix, but if they’re going to be together I want them to both be happy about it and I don’t feel like EJ will be able to understand and express any opinion on the matter (other than shock, horror at 4am!) until he’s two at the earliest. Maybe this is no bad thing – we’ll all be separated from one another soon enough. Or am I making a rod for my own back by letting EJ carry on to a later stage of development under the ongoing impression that he will always be with me?
Have you had a similar experience? Done things differently? And if so how has it worked out for you?