Word of the week – Flump: grappling with happiness

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This week has been a bit of a weird one for me, after being very upbeat for the last few weeks, following all the tenets of the Happiness Project, and generally feeling very resilient a few negative things happened in quick succession and I’ve found it very difficult to clear my mind of the debris left behind. Sleep took a turn for the worse and I feel the blog has suffered somewhat as every time I have sat down to write its like the ink has dried up in my brain. This culminated, last night, in me sitting down to a bit of web surfing and finding myself unable to read the words of any given paragraph in order (or even in the right words!) I could feel a headache coming on and it was a very weird and disconcerting experience. I realised that I was very tired, having woken at an ungodly hour the night before, fretting over a piece of nonsense in my life that I don’t seem to have been able to let go of. And then I threw in the towel and went to bed at 8.30pm.

The fact that there has been a lot of talk of the MAD Blog Award nominations this last week has also re-ignited this self-comparison demon that I’m trying to banish. I think I may have suffered with this one my entire life and its time to hop onto my little magic carpet and sail above the trees to view the woods in their entirety for once.

I enjoy writing; its nice to know that I have any kind of audience. I’m very lucky to have two healthy, funny little bunnies in my life and next week is April, one of my favourite months!! I also have a hair consultation, treatment, cut and blowdry lined up (for the first time in about 6 or 7 months!) plus lots of little projects to tackle, so there’s no time for flumping! Onwards and upwards!!

(Oh and by the way I think I just created a new verb –ย  ‘to flump’ – well, it just seems right somehow, eh? Some sort of bizarre crossbreed of slump and funk… No offence Pootle…)


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27 thoughts on “Word of the week – Flump: grappling with happiness

  1. It sounds like a hard week. Comparing yourself to others is really hard- hope you are ok and know you are a great writer with a brilliant blog. Being sleep deprived is so hard, it makes evertyhing seem worse. Hope you come out of your flump soon xx

    • Aw thanks so much Kiran. I think I’m already coming out of my flump now thanks – when you don’t write a post for a few days you lose this kind of interaction and its only now that I realise that blogging is such a big part of who I am now! I’m sure others feel the same. X

  2. Oh hon sounds like a tough week by anyone’s standards. One of the most pivotal turning points in my life occurred when I stopped comparing myself to others. It’s so easy to think everyone else’s life is fabulous and yours is crap (not you, people) but it’s rarely the case. I blame Facebook tbh! When it come to parenting, take heart that everyone is going through (or has been through) the same dramas, tantrums, meltdowns and sleep deprivation. Chin up lovely, and keep up the fab blog writing xx #WotW

    • You are so right about comparing with others on FaceBook, etc. It was less a parenting thing and more a blogging thing this week. The kids have been pretty good lately (famous last words!) ever since JJ poked EJ in the eye on Monday evening… X

      • Well that’s great news (not the eye poking of course!) Try not to get too hung up on the blogging awards, there’s always next year if this years are meant for other people xx

  3. I don’t know why but I your words in this entry is a fast read and its so nice to just breeze through it.

    FB is killing me actually. Seeing my contemporaries being so successful and I am thinking why am I at home doing nothing?

    I should actually need to purge but at the end of the day I just look at my son’s face.. he heals me.

    I am tired too. Lets rest so that afterwars we can tackle what the world will give us next.

    hope I make sense.


    • Thanks Merlinda – your words mean a lot. It is good to have a place to identify with others as well as just a place to compare (for the worse!) and no one is trying to be anything they aren’t in this space! Good sleep is the definitely the answer!! X

  4. First of all Sam, I love that picture, I could 100% have used that, and your word to describe my week last week so I know how you feel! I totally understand how you feel about the MADs, I wasn’t expecting anything from them (I’m pretty sure the only person who even nominated me for them was my hubby) and like you I am just happy that I have a space to write and that there are some lovely people who seem to enjoy reading it. But, things like the MADs make you compare and doubt yourself, no matter how much you try not to think about it! So I get it! I for one love reading your blog, so please carry on as you are ๐Ÿ™‚ And loving the positive end, good for you and enjoy the haircut! I really need one too… xx #wotw

    • Good word eh?! I’m with you on the MADS – I didn’t really ask for or expect nominations but its that wondering what if and why? I love our little blog community and I feel like everyone who regularly comments on mine is a good friend. I love reading your blog too and hope you get a haircut soon! (I was approached by a marketeer in town one day and sold a bumper package with half price haircuts included so I jumped at it!) X

  5. I love the verb “to flump”! I think that was me for the whole of February, so I understand! Get in those early nights when you can, enjoy your hair appointment and hopefully the flumpiness will ease! #wotw

    • It is a pretty cool made up word isn’t it?! I know I said a cross between funk and slump but I think it also has shades of the flounce about it… ๐Ÿ™‚ Glad to hear it was just confined to February for you Carrie! X

  6. Oh honey, I love your blog, and you are a fantastic writer. I completely understand how you feel though, it’s tough sometimes not to compare yourself and feel like you’re doing something wrong! I have many of those moments, but I know that I’d be lost without this blog now, and this wonderful community, so I try to ignore it (although I’m rubbish at that tbh!). And, I LOVE your new verb, I’m going to use it from now on, wonderfully descriptive!

  7. You are not alone with the flump! Suppose every blogger feels it at some point, some of us more than others. Onwards and upwards sounds like a sound strategy #wotw

  8. This must be a new verb! Love it. Though I don’t love how it’s making you feel. Worries and tiredness can often skew our view, too, I think. And as for the MADS? There are 1000’s of blogs out there, 1000’s, so I was just delighted to get the odd nomination here and there! I love blogging and can’t imagine not being a part of this community, and I love reading yours, so stick with us ๐Ÿ™‚ Sounds like you’re starting to feel more positive again now, so hope that feeling sticks around for a while, lovely lady x Thanks for sharing with #WotW

    • Thanks for your kind words Jocelyn. If anyone should have been up for a nomination it should have been you in my humble opinion. You must be one of the most hardworking bloggers out there and I just count myself lucky to have you as a blogging friend! X

  9. I think I am going to use this myself! I hope you have a better month in april and try not too worry about the blog awards too your blog matters to those who read it (ie all above) and keep doing what yuor doing with it xx #WotW

  10. Flumping is my new favourite word! I spent almost all of March flumping and I’m sure it’s all down to the end of the winter pre-spring blues.
    I think we are all guilty of comparing ourself to others with all the awards around right now, i think your blog is great and I’m glad I found it ๐Ÿ™‚ #WotW

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