I’m not surprised!

Surprised EJ!

When I first saw that the Prompt for this week was an emotion, “surprise”, I thought this would be easy, but when I sat down to think about surprises I have experienced in my life I found this was not the case in reality. I want to be able to talk about happy surprises – but no one’s ever thrown me a surprise party (and vice versa!), I used to think that asking for a surprise present could only ever lead to an amazing outcome, but now I know different! I realise that my life is really lacking in that element of the unknown. I realise that I am not the spontaneous, happy go lucky person that I thought I was. I realise that I like to know where I stand and what I’m getting.

A prime example of this would be the decision, during two separate pregnancies, to learn the gender of the babies at the first possible opportunity. I know some think of this gender discovery as one of life’s most important surprises, but I am an impatient kind of person and if something is inevitable then I don’t see the point in putting it off. I don’t feel like I missed out on a magic moment either – being handed a perfectly formed wrinkly bundle, whilst waves of post-birth euphoria wash over you is magic enough for me without the addition of “ooh, look a willy!” into the equation!

For me, the thought of surprises now is all about giving my children a magic present, or an unexpected treat, taking them somewhere new and unanticipated.

Maybe I’m old and jaded but I will keep looking three steps ahead, putting my detective hat on to look for clues to any future announcements or disruptions – I guess I pride myself on being a people-reader, and if I know you by heart then I like to think I can read between the lines. On the converse I can also be extremely unobservant.

Maybe one day I will be surprised by something amazing, even something personal and fabulous, but until that day I will just thank heavens that I’m able to keep the ‘nasty’ surprises at bay too!



12 thoughts on “I’m not surprised!

  1. Great post Sam, well done for being so honest. I think it’s good to know what’s coming next when you have a family to consider. I couldn’t bear the drama of my old life around my kids.

    I once watched a comedy sketch about finding out the gender, and she said the only way it would be a surprise is if a puppy came out. Made me chuckle 🙂 #ThePrompt

  2. We really do have very similar opinions about this don’t we! We both clearly like to know where we stand! Great post 🙂 xx

  3. Having just read Caroline’s post, I’m feeling in the minority for not finding out 🙂 I didn’t with any of our three, I do think it’s one of the last real surprises left in life, but it’s a surprise whenever you find out, whether at the scan or at the birth 🙂 As a planner, it was slightly out of character, I’ll admit, but having had the huge surprise of the wee girl, I’m quite glad I waited, it was a very special moment (probably as much due to the general hilarity and chaos in theatre with fainting medical student etc!). Thanks so much for linking to #ThePrompt x (and I love that photo!)

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